Monthly Archives: October 2012

Wedding Wednesday: Burnt Orange Color Palette Request

Today’s Wedding Wednesday boards come via a request from Carlaa who is having her wedding next July with burnt orange as the main color in her color palette. To keep a color such as burnt/dark orange from looking too “Fall,” the solution is to pair it with an equally saturated bright. So, here are three different color possibilities that I hope will help those of you who love orange and want to incorporate it in to your own Summer time wedding.

burnt orange 1

burnt orange 2

burnt orange 3

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Tips or Trends Tuesday: Taming Your Inner ‘Zilla

Let’s face it, weddings are stressful. There are to do lists a mile long, everyone chiming in on what they think you should do, budgets, deadlines, etc. It’s enough to put your brain on overload and stress you out to the max. However, your wedding should be the good kind of stress (known as eustress) not the red eyed flaming stress that turns you in to a dreaded Bridezilla.

Did you know that there is a psychological disorder called, “acquired situational narcissism?” That’s describes someone who has a feeling of grandiosity, lack of empathy, and rage as it pertains to a particular situation. -http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_politics/weddings/2007/06/run_away_groom.html A great example is Christian Bale’s infamous and highly publicized rant at a crew member on the set of filming Terminator.

There is some profanity (particularly the f word) so this might be NSFW.

Does this look similar?
Each one of these brides is demonstrating acquired situational narcissism and it sort of breaks my heart, because a wedding should be about celebrating love, not firing your friends over not being able to take off work for a bridal shower.

So, what does one need to do to keep from spewing obscenities, insults, and fire at everyone in your general direction? Here are some of my tips for taming your inner Bridezilla or whatever sort of ‘zilla you identify with be it groom, mom, etc.

1. The most uttered phrase any Bridezilla will make, “IT’S MY DAY!” No dear ‘zilla, it’s not. It’s your partner’s day, your mother’s day, your father’s day, etc. A wedding should be about joining two hearts and two families. Everyone has a stake in making your wedding a day to remember. So, keep that at the forefront of your thoughts as you make your way through the planning gauntlet.

2. Stay organized! Whether you have a wedding planner or not, you must keep things organized. You don’t have to buy a fancy planning book as there are lots of free sources online to help you keep track of all of the details. Keep all of your receipts and agreements in one spot. Hit up one of those free sites and download yourself a checklist. Keep a personal to do list handy and be sure to check things off as you do them. Have lots of inspiration pics? Join a site like Pinterest and pin your inspiration there. It saves you from having to keep a massive cut and paste project.

3. Don’t make ridiculous demands of your wedding party. It’s 2012 and we are ALL busy. We all only get 24 hours in a day and to expect your wedding party to be at your beck and call and show up for your favor making sweatshop isn’t respectful of their time. Schedule a time to get together for a favor making party (provide drinks and snacks) and those who can show up will. Don’t expect them to pay for anything other than their attire. They are your friends and family, not a bank. Wanting a kick ass bachelorette party in Vegas and you live in Ohio? Bridesmaids was a movie honey, not a how to. If it’s something you and your party can afford, then by all means go for it, but if you and your party are strapped for cash…come up with another plan closer to home. This goes for bachelor parties as well.

4. Time management. The average couple has 12 – 18 months of planning time, so use it wisely. The less time you have to plan, the more important it is to spend your time wisely. The first priority should always be to secure your venue first. Then, you can get all giddy about bridal gowns. Speaking of bridal gowns, ideally, you need to get that ordered about nine months in advance. If you show up at a salon and you are four – six weeks from your wedding day, stick to the racks and what you can take home with you that day. Don’t make ridiculous demands of your consultant. If they can rush an order, awesome! Just expect to pay more and don’t demand that the salon pay the manufacturer for the additional costs. Pay close attention to those lists in your favorite bridal magazine or website as they are great guidelines to follow.

5. Stay within your budget and don’t even consider anything outside of it. Whether you and your love are paying for the wedding on your own or if you have financial help from other sources, stick to your budget! You can have a beautiful wedding at any price. Focus on the love between you and your soon to be spouse, not those chair covers you saw on “My Fair Wedding.” Mr. Tutera and his staff create some of the most gorgeous weddings out there, BUT those weddings would cost you well over $100,000. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have that sort of cash on hand and neither does my family. Want to know what my wedding budget is? It’s $5,000 for everything…even my dress. The easiest way to stay in budget…fewer guests.

6. Don’t expect perfection. Nobody is perfect and that means that there will be a few bumps in the road on your wedding day whether your have a planner or not. Would your entire wedding be ruined if there was a little nick in the fondant on your cake? Your garter forgotten? Lipstick was dropped on your dress? Your mother-in-law decides to wear blue glitter eyeshadow that makes her eyes look like a mutated peacock? NO, it won’t if you are truly focused on what a wedding is all about: love.

7. Expecting your partner to be just as psyched about wedding details and planning as you are is a bit unfair. Whether your partner is male, female, or both, typically one of you takes on the planning role and the other is there for the ride. There is likely a reason why you are doing most of the planning and he or she is not: you are more excited about the details such as letterpress vs engraving invitations. Don’t get upset about it, because at the end of it all you will be married to one another and you don’t want to ruin the experience by yelling and screaming over something so ridiculous as buttercream vs fondant. It was your choice to take on the planning role, now own it.

8. Finally, focusing more on planning the wedding than planning the marriage. Are there unanswered questions regarding who wants kids and how many? Will you have a joint bank account? If there is infidelity in the marriage, what would you do? Are you sexually compatible? Will you have a date night once a week, once a month? Any health concerns? Talk about all of the big issues and it might be worth it to have a counseling session or two to get feedback on your issues and your plan.

Monday’s Finding: Wedding Signage: From the informative to the romantic

Whether you are looking to provide your guests with a bit of direction or a sentimental piece to use as decor, there are some really great wedding sign ideas out there. If you plan to DIY or purchase, wedding signs can be creative and cute. My personal fave of the bunch? The ring bearer with the “Run Aaron Run!” sign. Such a funny bit to add to the beginning of a ceremony. I hope you get a bit of inspiration and I’d love to know which sign is your fave. Don’t forget to stop by on Saturday for fabulous wedding signs courtesy of the Etsy Virtual Bridal Show Team. See you tomorrow!

wedding signage 1

wedding signage 2

wedding signage 3

Sunday Surprise: Minted Inspiration Board

Today I have a cute pink and green Christmas board. I know it’s not strictly wedding, but Minted has great social stationery and I love the ability to create a board that enhances their cards and whatnot. You should definitely head over to Minted and peruse their wedding stationary and perhaps your holiday card as well.

Contest by Kristen, see more Minted

Contest board by Kristen. See more Minted

Saturday’s Latest: Pink bridal gowns and the latest from the Etsy Virtual Bridal Show Team

Unless you’ve been living under a rock this past week, you know Jessica Biel and Justin Timberlake were wed last weekend in Italy. The buzz has been all about Jessica’s gorgeous Giambattista Valli pink bridal gown. Just in case you haven’t seen it…here ya go.

If you are considering a pink gown for your own wedding, consider a design from one of the members of the Etsy Virtual Bridal Show Team. Many of our designers and vintage purveyors have gorgeous pink gowns from Champagne to Bubblegum. In addition, most of them can create a custom design just for you! Here are some great pink gowns in a variety of styles: boho, vintage, 50s, classic, Great Gatsby style, etc. In addition, I have a roundup of great new bits and bobs from the team. Enjoy your weekend!

‘Saturday’s Latest: Etsy Virtual Bridal Show Team 10/27/12’ by ravengrrl

Check out some of the team’s newest finds and creations.


Boutonniere, Purple Satin Ro…

$14.00

Marie Antoinette Extra Ruffl…

$85.00

Marie Antoinette Lavender an…

$80.00

Marie Antoinette Extra Ruffl…

$85.00

silvery lavender silk lace s…

$185.00

Wedding Cake flavored rim su…

$3.95

Popcorn – old fashioned popp…

$8.00

Popcorn – old fashioned popc…

$8.00

Swans , Decorative 3D Gift -…

$15.00

Flower Girl Tutu Dress–Vint…

$135.00

Made to Order Custom Details…

$375.50

KETUBAH Ketubahs – Custom Ke…

$165.00

1920s Flapper Great Gatsby A…

$320.00

Two Dozen of French Macarons…

$44.00

Ninotchka-Weddings Bridal Fa…

$159.00

Keys and Locks Pattern Cotto…

$30.00

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Friday’s Favorites: Wheat, Rose Gold, and Black and White Plaid Details and Gorgeous Bridal Jackets

Happy Friday! Do you have any fun plans for this Halloweekend? Tomorrow, Mr. Wondermous and I are taking the kiddo up to Longmont for the Longmont Museum and Cultural Center’s Dia de los Muertos (Day of the Dead) celebration followed by a trip to one of our favorite farms, Berry Patch Farms, to get pumpkins and enjoy their Harvest Festival. I know it will be loads of fun and I’ll do my best to take some pics and post them.

In other news, Belle Memorie is now on Tumblr! If you’d like to see more of wheat inspires me, head over to: http://bellememorie.tumblr.com/ and take a look.

This past week was full of wedding gorgeousness and it’s my pleasure to show you how you can take my inspiration boards and find similar great handmade and vintage items via Etsy. Enjoy!

‘Wheat Wedding Details’ by ravengrrl

Gorgeous wheat themed wedding details perfect for an Autumn wedding.


Fall, Autumn Harvest Wheat W…

$30.00

Wheat Monogram Initial, Pers…

$265.00

Devotion Bouquet – Weddings …

$120.00

Wheat headband or tiara

$39.00

Wheat Bouquet

$28.00

Green Wheat Boutonniere

$19.00

Vintage Diamond Wheat Engrav…

$1680.00

Wheat Fall Wedding Invitatio…

$8.50

Golden Wheat Lace Fingerless…

$30.00

rustic wedding hair accessor…

$85.00

5 microfiber groomsmen silks…

$135.00

Summer Sun Bridal Bouquet

$85.00

harvest wheat boutonniere, a…

$18.00

Wheat Penny Cuff Links – Sil…

$10.49

Wedding ring set – recycled …

$198.00

10 Wheat Party Favor Soap

$15.00

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‘Rose Gold Wedding’ by ravengrrl

A collection of rose gold jewelry, colored accessories, and a gorgeous short bridal gown.


Rose Gold ring, Diamond wedd…

$1480.00

14k Rose Gold and African Bl…

$699.00

Men’s 14K White and Rose…

$675.00

Lacy Tea Rose Wedding Set, r…

$1378.00

JENNY Wedding Belt Bridal Be…

$168.00

SALE-Light pink gold embroid…

$18.00

Wedding Polymer Clay flower …

$45.00

Wedding Bridal Fascinator Ch…

$45.00

Blush pink and gold hand dye…

$40.00

Limited Edition – ANOUSCHKA …

$79.00

SALE free shipping Beautiful…

$500.00

Rose Gold Sequin Bridal Shru…

$155.00

NEMA crystal bib necklace

$94.00

Real Leaf Jewelry, Double Co…

$48.00

Champagne Peach Earrings Pin…

$39.00

INNOCENT ROSE, Earrings, ros…

$489.00

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‘Black and White Plaid Wedding Bits’ by ravengrrl


Necktie, Plaid Neckties, Men…

$26.00

Plaid Wedding Invitations

$4.00

SALE 20 Percent Off Clutch F…

$53.60

Bohemian Ruffled Bolero. Wed…

$32.50

mens WIDE PLAID ring sterlin…

$90.00

Punk Rock Girl

$65.00

Pretty Plaid Bow Necklace-cl…

$18.95

Mens Bow Tie – Black/White/…

$19.50

Pleated Wristlet Purse Plaid…

$30.00

110mm flower corsage brooch …

$5.50

Grey Plaid with Black Medal …

$12.50

VICTORIAN PARASOL in Low Lus…

$39.50

Tartan Silver Cufflinks

$82.00

Black And White Plaid Silk O…

$56.00

Black Tartan and Charms Brac…

$31.99

Grey Plaid Groomsmen Liquor …

$20.00

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‘Gorgeous Bridal Jackets’ by ravengrrl


Modern Bridal Alencon Lace &…

$349.00

Bridal Floral Bolero Jacket …

$235.00

LUNA champagne dupioni silk …

$104.00

Ivory long sleeve lace brida…

$99.99

Tulle and Satin Wedding Shru…

$495.00

Vest, Bolero, Wrap Bridal Iv…

$185.00

Custom Made Victorian Lace J…

$178.00

White Faux Fur Bridal Jacket

$89.99

Leather Jacket Bolero Steamp…

$559.00

Enchanted Summer Bittersweet…

$85.00

Bridal Ruffle Bolero with Be…

$95.00

Oriana Ruffle Victorian Brid…

$165.00

Fairy Tale Satin Bolero Shru…

$60.00

Silver gray feather faux fur…

$49.99

LOVE DOTS Bridal black lace …

$82.00

Victorian red blue silk cout…

$44.95

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Stunner Thursday: Top off your bridal ensemble with a gorgeous jacket, shrug, or bolero

Whether you are having an Orthodox service and need to make your look more modest, having your wedding during the colder months, or want to add a dash of glamor to your wedding day look, a jacket, shrug, or bolero can be a great asset to your bridal ensemble. For my own wedding, I have an awesome jacket created by Chuletin Designs to add a bit of color and tie in with the theme of my plum and navy butterfly wedding. Here are a variety of picks from across the net from lace to a soft white cashmere cardigan.

Bridal Jackets 1

Cardigan
bhldn.com

Temperley london
shopbop.com

Jacket
enzoani.com

Jacket
weddingbellsblog.com

Brides Of Adelaide Magazine: January 2012
bridesofadelaide.blogspot.com

2219J
benjaminroberts.co.uk

Bridal Jackets 2