I sit here in my non-air-conditioned home and despite the blessing of a roof over my head and sleeping next to the one I love every day, I still complain. I have friends who have spouses on deployment or are on deployment themselves who don’t get that privilege right now, but they are sacrificing so I have that blessing. As a Navy Brat, I know what it’s like to wait for a loved one to return. I remember making and holding up signs for my Dad and trying to find him on the deck of the ship as it pulled in. My Dad knows what it is like to get shipped out for 18 months and leave a newly pregnant wife behind and not getting to lay his eyes on his new baby until she was 9 months old. I recall neighbors making signs out of a simple white sheet on which they expressed their love and excitement for their solider/sailor who has come back to them. This set honors our military and the sacrifices they have made.
Is It Essential to Have a Groom’s Cake?
A groom’s cake has its roots in the South, and although it used to be viewed as an added and unnecessary expense, this once-neglected cake has been making a huge comeback. Intended to be a gift from the bride to the groom, the groom’s cake is usually dark (often chocolate or liquor-soaked) and designed with a nod toward what’s traditionally considered “masculine” (i.e., no rosettes in sight).
The groom’s cake can serve many purposes, from dessert at the rehearsal dinner to an alternative choice to the bride’s cake at the wedding. It’s customary for the groom’s cake to be displayed next to the bride’s cake and later cut and put into boxes for guests to take home. And believe it or not, legend has it that single women are supposed to sleep with a slice under their pillow the same night they receive it — and if they do, they’ll dream of their future husband. Boxed slices of groom’s cake can also serve as your wedding favors. If you go this route, take advantage of the opportunity to get creative with the packaging — an additional way to reflect your bridal style.
A current creative trend in groom’s cakes is to have the cake reflect the groom’s interests and hobbies. Whatever you decide, gifting your new husband with his own cake is something you should do because you want to — not because you feel obligated.
Here are some photos of really great groom’s cakes, including the infamous red velvet armadillo cake from Steel Magnolias and a traditional chocolate cake.